Do women expire after 30 (2)
Does hypergamy keep wealthy older men relevant and desirable in the dating scene?
A woman's glory is her husband.
The foremost skill Amaka was extremely good at was cybersecurity.
Right from her days in Secondary school, she has been fascinated with science and technology, so diving deeper into the field of IT after her CS degree was not something unexpected.
Amaka was a very hardworking and confident woman, it didn't take long before she began leaving trails of achievements as she rose to the top, before the age of 30, she was already in charge of the biggest IT department in the Multinational company where she worked, life was good, her attitude towards work and her personality attracted lots of love and support, as well as hate from both her bosses and subordinates, but un everything, her work environment, was both energizing and fulfilling.
She lived in an exquisite apartment located at one of the best upper-middle-class areas in Lagos, went on vacation once in a year, donated monthly to charity and most of all supported her family.
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She was in control over everything and could bear whatever bullshit: jealous and bitter people threw at her except the pressure from her family.
Amaka always felt her heart leap, each time her mother called her phone.
"Nneamaka nwam, iche ga nini
Owu mgbe m kponwuru ka iga alu di?
Those were her mother's favourite words
and it meant
Nneamaka my child, what are you waiting for? Is it when I die and dry up that you will get married?
To her mother Lois, it didn't matter that Amaka was bearing the financial burden of the family, including that of her sisters who were married and that of rebellious brother, Afam who was always in and out of police custody.
To Lois, all these were good but without a husband,
'Nneamaka you are nothing o'
Nneamaka was trying, she was working very hard, but it was very difficult.
It is either her relationship dies a natural death or she will just leave after enduring lots of rubbish.
She had given her life to Christ since her days in the university, she prayed regularly and did her best to live a godly life, but to her mother, this wasn't enough,
"You have to send 20,000 naira every month excluding my monthly allowance so that I can give it to my prophet, he needs to pray for you regarding this Your condition"
O wu nwanne Nna gi mega gi idea
"It's your occultic Uncle that is responsible for your Singleness, that man has vowed that I will not reap the fruit of labour" her mother would say before breaking down in tears.
These were the cycle several times a week rinse and repeat, it didn't take time before Amaka began to feel that she had a very evil condition called
'Singleness'.
It took a very long time for her to understand that all she needed to do was to live a life of gratitude.
Life itself, the goodwill of family and friends, (even though they sometimes acted like strangers) good health and a good source of livelihood was enough for her to be grateful
There are millions of women like Amaka all over the world whose self-esteem had been brought low by the pressure they face regularly,
Their male counterparts on the other hand face pressure from their various families and the society but on an entirely different plane, a single man and above 40 may be regarded as an
'Efulefu' (that is an irresponsible or useless person) if he has money, it is a very huge advantage, you know what they say about money stopping nonsense, but unfortunately, the same cannot be said about his female counterparts.
Aside from having children ( not every woman wants kids) financial security is what many women want
Some don't just want mere financial security, they want money, excess of it. If marrying a much older man will assure them of that, so be it.
So yes, Hypergamy will make and continue to make rich older men relevant in the dating scene, maybe not for love, that doesn't mean rich older men will not be able to find true love.
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Do women expire after 30 (2)
The typical African female has more battles than she is even praised for.God help us.